Ep. 19: I Just Caught My Husband Using Porn. Now What? (with Cori L. Page, IMFT, CSAT)
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If you've just discovered your husband is using porn, I want you to take a breath. What you're feeling right now — the betrayal, the confusion, the flood of questions — is real, and it makes complete sense. You didn't see this coming. And now you're trying to figure out what it means, how serious it is, and what you're supposed to do next.
That's exactly why I brought Cori Page onto the show today.
Cori is a licensed Independent Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) based in Columbus, Ohio, and she works with both individuals and couples navigating the painful aftermath of pornography discovery. She brings so much warmth and clinical clarity to this conversation, and I know it's going to meet a lot of you right where you are.
In this episode, we talk about why discovering porn use hits so hard — even when the people around you minimize it or tell you you're overreacting. Cori explains why your response is legitimate, and why this genuinely does register as a breach of trust in a marriage, regardless of the extent of the use.
We also get into the question so many women are asking themselves: Is this an addiction, or is it something else? Cori helps us understand the difference between occasional use and compulsive or addictive patterns, and what signs you should actually be paying attention to as you try to assess what you're dealing with.
And then we talk about something I really didn't want to skip over: this is not your fault. His porn use is not a verdict on your desirability, your body, or the quality of your marriage. Cori explains how pornography so often functions as an unhealthy coping mechanism for something else entirely — and why understanding that can actually help you approach the situation with a little more clarity and a little less self-blame.
We close out with practical next steps — what you can do, what you can ask, and how to begin moving forward even in the midst of so much uncertainty.
If you're in crisis mode right now, I hope this episode feels like a hand on your shoulder. You don't have to figure this out alone.
In this episode, we cover:
Why porn discovery feels like a betrayal — and why that's a legitimate response
The difference between occasional use and compulsive or addictive patterns
What a wife actually needs to know in the aftermath of discovery
Why this is not your fault and not a reflection of your worth
How porn often stands in as a coping strategy for deeper unmet needs
Practical next steps for moving forward
Resources mentioned:
Find a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) near you: IITAP.com
Find an AASECT therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists
Cori Page's counseling practice — Restoration Therapy of in Columbus (Ohio): rtcolumbus.com
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